Adding Value and Creating Attraction

A slightly more complicated rule of attraction is adding value. A popular and very important saying in the study of social dynamics is that in all your social interactions, the person you interact with should be better off after the interaction than before it. By doing so people will look forward to socializing with you in the future since they will know how beneficial and fulfilling it is, in turn strengthening and expanding your social circle.

There are many ways to do this. A person can be left better off emotionally or intellectually. Examples of emotionally bettering someone in an interaction include complimenting them and making them feel better about themselves or helping relieve a person of their problems. Intellectual examples are enlightening a persons way of thinking on a topic or sharing a new point of view or telling someone an interesting fact or statistic. Other ways could be introducing the person to some of your friends or sharing the experience of going to somewhere interesting like a museum or a new restaurant.

After your interactions with family, friends, business professionals, or people you just met ask yourself whether you left them better off than before you interacted with them. Do they feel better about themselves? Did they learn something new or experience something worthwhile? Did they have a fun and exciting time? If not, think about ways to make sure they do benefit in the future. The difference is subtle, but once you start incorporating this principle into your social interactions, you will find people much more interested and attracted towards being with you.

Having trouble adding value? It is a lot easier if you have charisma.

Next step - portraying strong body language!