Tina of Luv'em or Leave'm
Expert Relationship Blogger

In an exclusive BATM interview, expert relationship blogger Tina (appropriately nicknamed Advice Maven) of Luv'em or Leave'm shares her female perspective on dating advice for men. I figured what better way is there to help men succeed with women, than to ask a woman who knows what they're thinking? And knowledgeable she is. Tina shares her expertise and helps women across the world through her popular blog and her award-winning website.

BATM: Can you share with us your background, experience, and reasons for devoting yourself as a relationship blogger?

Tina: I created Luv'em or Leave'm because I had so many friends that were always dating the wrong man, and therefore never had a chance to meet a man that was right for them. I decided that I would create a site that was focused on answering the question "Should she Luv'em or Leave'm?" because these women never seemed to recognize when it was time to move on. I had planned on sticking to the women giving advice to each other, but somewhere along the way word got out that I have been married for 15 years so I received more and more relationship questions that were directed at me. What was planned to be an occasional blog became a weekly blog that it is devoted to relationship issues. The blog is part sound advice and part humorous observations, which is fitting because I am not licensed to give advice but I have all kinds of suggestions based on what has worked for me and tons of input from my readers.

BATM: What do you think are the biggest myths regarding dating advice that are directed towards men?

Tina: Some of the worst advice that is given to men is that they will look desperate if they let a woman know how interested they are. I know men that are convinced that they should wait a few days to call because they are afraid to show a woman that they are truly interested. Women worry about this too, but someone has to take a chance and show that they are interested to make a relationship happen. It just happens to usually work out that the guy is the one that needs to take this chance first. If she isn't that interested, at least he knows. The other option is that she assumes that you're not interested because you don't let her know and a woman doesn't want to start out dating a guy that seems to be only minimally interested in her.

BATM: A crowd favorite - how do most women feel about men approaching them? Is there any advice you have for us on breaking the barrier with women we find interesting and attractive?

Tina: I think that it is very important for a man to appear confident, not obnoxious, but definitely sure of himself. I know that that can be difficult for men that are shy, but the worst that she can do is say no. I've noticed that a lot of the men that do very well in meeting women are in sales. Part of that is their outgoing personalities, but part of it is the attitude that they expect to get several no's before they get a yes. Also, a lot of women still believe that men like it when women play hard to get, so don't take every no personally. If it's a woman that you see regularly, you may need to approach her a few times before she thinks that she can say yes without seeming too anxious.

BATM: From a woman's perspective, what do you think are some ways men could best improve their relationships and dates?

Tina: I think that men underestimate just how much women need to communicate. For example, a guy that shows how much he cares about a woman may not realize that she still needs to hear that he cares quite a bit. Of course if you say it and don't back it up with actions, that's even worse, but I think that men don't need this constant verbal reassurance like women do.

BATM: Is there anything else you believe men should know from a relationship blogger?

Tina: These days everyone is very worried about money, so I think that men should be aware that they don't have to spend a lot of money on a date to impress a women. Most women would be much more impressed if a man took the trouble to cook dinner for her or planned a picnic at a beautiful spot in the park. It's more work than just taking her somewhere, but the extra effort shows you care and will be a lot easier on your wallet.

BATM: Great information, Tina. I'm sure both me and my readers find it refreshing to look into a woman's perspective on these topics and particularly one as experienced as you. It was a pleasure having this interview with you and I look forward to continue reading your blog.

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