Orlando Mac

In an exclusive BATM interview, 8-time award-winning dating coach Orlando Mac shares his background and expertise with us. Having helped thousands of men, Orlando continues to revolutionize the industry today with his "Opposite Theory."

BATM: How about we start the interview off with some basic personal background?

Orlando Mac: Well my name is Orlando, I am 38 and I am engaged to be married to a dynamite lady that took me years to meet.

BATM: What event or experience led you to learn more about relationships?

Orlando Mac: At first I had no troubles with dating, I was in good shape, decent looking, and I had a boat full of confidence. With long hair I joined a band or two and played with some of the best musicians in the world. I had high social status, which helped with women and dating.

So being a romantic at heart I found a fun lady, she had a cool English accent, then moved to England from Canada to travel the world and even get married. With hard work I figured it would last forever, even if I wasn't the happiest at the time. She was my friend and I figured I could grow old and miserable maybe even rekindle the love from my end with some elbow grease.

Errrrrr wrong answer, she dumped me and moved on.

She said she wanted to be free again, wanted to get out and enjoy herself, while I wanted the family life house, kids,etc. What happened was "The Opposite," she got knocked up straight away, and I got to hit the clubs for years. Not thinking much of it, I was a "Rockstar" before, I figured I would just turn up the romance and be off after an almost 9 year layoff. Errrrr wrong answer. I ended up in a two year span of hell where even the bottom of the barrel rejected me.The more I tried the more I failed. My magic shield was gone and I was being pillaged by the poor.

This led me on a personal growth cycle that rekindled exactly why I was so damn successful earlier and which had nothing to do with what I had previously thought were my strengths. Once sorted, I helped as many guys as I could working in restaurants and bars. I spent my nights off coaching people to improve their mating results. I never wanted people to suffer the lows that I did. My confidence used to be shattered, my spirit mangled, and I dragged myself through most of the times by myself. Where I felt guilt in the past for not being better, I watched others fail with much less pressure. So even though I am overweight, health could be better, am losing hair, could be slightly retarded although I am averaging an 95% in college, I have learned to love myself. This I share with others. I teach them that they are the "Trophy," and if they don't take care of their worth no one else will. Believe in yourself and others will too. This has spawned 15 years worth of Personal Coaching that happily for me has changed many lives, and enriched many relationships.

BATM: What is your experience and background as a dating coach?

Orlando Mac: I started out as a bartender watching guys get shot down, or people having relationship problems. So having gone through similar issues I felt the urge to help others. This led to many a late night sitting and drinking, trying to get a paradoxical message across. Then as a Photo/Journalist for a night life magazine I figured I would spice up their content with a series on dating. It would include professional coaches as well as my own brand of Opposite Theory tutelage. The Editors loved the idea. I started research tracked down a few excellent coaches both male and female, and then presented it to my Editors. As soon as they heard I was interviewing Payton Kane (a controversial seduction coach with the Seduce & Conquer Radio show) the female Editor pulled the plug on the whole series. I was later offered her job but wasn't happy about what had happened so I quit.

I had been on-line since about 97/98 and frequented alt.seduction.fast as well as some other sites that were popular with dating at the time, but not being the "playa" type, I felt sharing information with men of that ilk was like conspiring with the enemy. I then discovered Becomeaplayer.com and the seemingly endless line of men in desperate need of help that "The Player" attracted to his web site. I was on his chat rooms for years, with line-ups of patient men waiting for their fix. This culminated in my co-authoring of the Crash Course in Seduction and The New Breed Multi-Media Suite which includes The Opposite Theory with the Paragon Project (www.paragonproject.com). After all these years of coaching, we came to appreciate all the hard work that coaches do in the background. We decided it was high time that a Seduction Hall of Fame was created to serve the community at large, so we created it and have just recently launched it. www.seductionhalloffame.com It honors the best coaches in the field as well as provides high quality educational material to those men in need. It also has a forum community that helps out on a more personal basis, as well as seduction community news.

BATM: What are a few tips that would help the average guy improve the most?

Orlando Mac: First of all lets start with the basics, get those right and the rest will follow. 3 Main Tests Men Will Face To Gain A Ladies Attention Test 1: Confidence- she will check to make sure you have it at all times. Women want a man they can trust. Test 2: Humor/Playfulness- women want a man who is fun and can get them excited about the normal things in life. Test 3: The Challenge- This is mainly about standing up for yourself and not being a doormat. Too many men try to get in women's pants by agreeing to everything. Women don't want an average man, they want a normal one. There is a difference, if you are not The Challenge, then you will be too easy, which shows you have a low valuation of yourself. Women want a man as good as them or better. Another good tip is to get used to breaking peoples personal bubbles, day in, day out you should practice talking to people.

BATM: Do you have any great style recommendations for our readers?

Orlando Mac: I have always been a proponent of "Dress to Impress Yourself." You should always study what is hot, and what women like, but in the end when you choose those outfits, you have to feel like a million bucks. So if you buy it, it better make you feel good too. The reason for this is because when you are getting all dressed up to go out on the town, you will feel powerful, exude confidence, and feel sexy all night. That is powerful and will lead to amazing results not only if you are dating and will also help you fire up your partner in a relationship. Take care of yourself and others will take care of you too. So if any of you want to vote for the coaches that have helped you the most or just want to prove to others you belong in the Seduction Hall of Fame, drop on by, and say Hi.

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BATM: It was my pleasure having you here.

Orlando Mac: Cheers, and thank you for the interview.

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