My Story:
My First Love, My First Relationship, and a New Beginning!

What is my story? What chain of events led me on the path to straighten my relationships and help others straighten theirs? My story is a mix of ironic entertainment and inspiration. Alas...

I was a teenager and inexperienced. She was interested in me and I was interested in her. She kissed me on the lips. I was hooked, not to mention petrified.

Unfortunately, I was too afraid to progress matters with her, let alone muster the courage to ask her out. For months I waited and yearned for her. Over the winter she returned to her old boyfriend that I was friends with. My desire grew and grew.

More time passed. Towards the end of the winter we would consistently kiss each other on the cheek but I was still afraid. She was so beautiful. People told me she was a bitch and to watch out. I didn't listen.

Eventually I asked her out to prom and we went. I went on and on about how much I loved her even though, looking back, she was boring. At that moment in time, in my head, she wasn't boring. I was the boring one. I failed at keeping her entertained. It was my fault.

Later we went on a date to the movies. I am a gentleman; of course I paid for her. I was too afraid to kiss her again, but during the car ride home I asked her out. She gave me excuses. But I loved her so it made sense. She even told me how her ex and her were still hooking up. It didn't matter to me; she was already mine even if she wouldn't "officially" go out with me. Don't worry, my story only gets worse.

Come spring, we went on a field trip with our school. We were excited and we were crazy about each other. That night at dinner her ex started holding her hand even though he knew we were "going out." I'm a muscular guy and I could have snapped him in half and my emotions told me to. But I was too nice. For the love she and I had together, I didn't. Later on a bus I told her I forgave her and that we would fix things. She had similar thoughts... kind of. She told me it was all over. I begged for it not to be. I asked her why, please just tell me why.

She told me why and I tried to fix things. Things were going to be ok. I was depressed but it would all be ok. Months passed and I still wasn't over her. At her graduation party I made her an amazing gift with roses and memories of our relationship. I, of course, had kept so many mementos from it. Our love would last forever.

She never called to thank me like she promised, in fact she even forgot to call me to hang out. She was busy though so it was ok. When she made me jealous and told me about her new relationships, it was also ok because we were friends now. All emotions were over. But I loved her so I would make sure I ended my emotions.

Over the summer, after she dumped me and was with a new guy, I asked her when she was free. She was busy whenever I was busy. I'm a persistent guy so I'll be damned if coincidence can stop me.

One day over ice cream, I teased her and she got mad. She got into her car to leave. I thought she was joking. She left. I drove to her house hoping she would let me apologize. She didn't let me and my stupid big mouth ruined it. I was so mean to her so I deserved it. I didn't think what I said was so offensive. It was just a joke. Regardless, it was my fault so I deserved to never see her again. In fact, I never did see her ever again and my story ends.

It was my first "relationship" and it left me heartbroken for months. Yet even in our darkness days, light shines through. Some people meander towards the light: once I found it, I sprinted right towards it. All the pain and hurt I felt provided motivation for me to learn about relationships and never let it happen again. I was constantly improving myself and reading about women and relationships. With a lot of dedication I straightened out my life and was slowly able to help others with theirs and inspire them with my story. Through such small steps I eventually became a relationship counselor, editor, and contributor for the Paragon Project (About Me)

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